(Christian wedding poetry) If You Are Not Smoking You Are Not Cooking
By Rachel Yoshida
Some people really love to cook, and there are some that really love to smoke. Some people believe that if you can cook it you can also smoke it. They will build smoke houses for the sole purpose of smoking hams. They will build portable smokers for you to smoke your chicken or turkey. Some will smoke different kinds of fish. They will even use different kinds of seasonings to spice up these foods.
Smoked turkey is fast becoming the main dish on Thanksgiving Day instead of your regular turkey and stuffing dinner. Smoked hams are also becoming a very popular dish. Smoked salmon is a very popular fish dish. Watch out for buying this kind of fish out of season as it could make you very sick. Depending on the severity, it even may put you in the hospital.
They will also use different types of wood to smoke these different foods. It also depends on where in the United States they are or what part of the world they are in as to what types of food they smoke. Some people just cook. They will go to school to become the world’s greatest chefs. Some just go because they want to be nothing more than a normal cook. They want to cook for schools, nursing homes, hospitals, or just to say that they went to cooking school.
When you go to a cooking school, instructors and chefs, obviously, teach you how to cook. They teach you the right ingredients to use in your dishes and the right spices for a great tasting dinner. They also teach you what pans to use and what temperature to set your burner on to make sure that you don’t burn or scorch your food.
They will teach you how to follow a recipe and teach you the little short cuts they take. They can teach you how to whip up the fluffiest omelets, the lightest cakes, or the smoothest, most moist brownies. They will already have the best pans and the proper utensils. They will also have several sets of the best knives, and several of different styles of very excellent mixers. All of this so they can get your juices smoking to start cooking.
So get into the kitchen and start making the magic that makes holidays, friends , family worth having. Food is the one common bond that plays such an important roll in our lives, and the one who makes the magic is the place where all of these fond memories take place, so suit up and get the fires burning.
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If Your Goal is Marriage, Don’t Move In Until You Say I DO!
By Deborrah Cooper
Several years ago I read an article MEN’S HEALTH Magazine which reported that couples who live together first are most likely to NOT get married. The studies further concluded that when cohabitating couples married, they were statistically more likely to divorce.
In college I thought that living together was probably a good idea. We’d both get the opportunity to “see how things worked out” and save money on both rent and utilities. But I’m older now and have a lot more life and relationship experience under my belt. And after spending two decades observing people’s relationships, I’ve come to realize that living together doesn’t do one positive thing for a couple or their relationship. Living together is not the path to a happy, long-lasting marriage.
The Good, The Bad and the Ugly of Cohabitation
Carolyn is an administrative assistant at a major corporation in downtown San Francisco. “There’s a guy on my job now who is shacking up with his fiancee. He doesn’t seem to be as enthusiastic as he was when they weren’t living together. I wonder how that’s going to turn out?”
Regina reports that one of her best friends is experiencing this now. “She and her man have been together 3 years, living together for 1+, and she’s ready to marry. He’s not. Why should he be, he’s got it all right now! What’s the paper going to mean to him? Now, she’s ready to lower her standards (of wanting to be married before she has children, yada yada) and have a child with him (of course with the stupid notion that maybe this will help the relationship move toward marriage. I want to say to her “HELLO! IT AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN. And if it does, do you really want to look back and feel that you had to trap your man into marriage?)!”
Erlinda is a recent college graduate and witnessed “move-in mania” amongst her friends.
“I wouldn’t move in with a boyfriend unless I had a ring and a date. Even then, it would only be a few weeks before the wedding. If we’re getting married toward the end of the month, I would move in at the beginning of the month, but not before then. From what I’ve seen in these shacking up situations, all a woman gets from “playing house” is taken advantage of!”
Older Couples May See Things Differently
Nick and Virginia have both been married and divorced, so the concept of marriage is not a new issue for either. “We’re comfortable and happy and in love” Virginia reports.
“Some of my friends think I need to go on and marry him to catch him, but Nick is already mine! They don’t understand that though. Children are not an issue. We’re both in our early 50s and neither of us can have anymore children. We only have my high school age children with us - his son is almost an adult. So there is no ‘having his baby to catch him” syndrome going on here! The best I can tell you is this, we choose the way we live and we are happy with it. If in the future we get married, we will be happy with that too.”
Should Women Should Avoid “Giving Away the Milk?”
Very often men opt out of marriage after a period of cohabitation. In theory, it appears to be a great solution. However, I feel the better plan is to resist that desire to marry/live together too early and instead, spend time learning as much about your partner as possible before making such a major commitment. Unfortunately, I see many people in relationships and marriages simply to avoid being alone.
The likelihood of marrying takes a nosedive when a couple shacks up. For one, marrying would seem anticlimactic, because seemingly little if anything changes, hence the urgency to marry goes down significantly or even disappears.
Also, if you’re not married, it’s easier to leave the relationship over petty matters. No matter what cohabitating couples say, the commitment of marriage is not the same when a couple shacks up.
David is a 29 year old fireman, and looking forward to the day he marries. “If I feel committed enough to want to live with the woman I’m with, I will buy the ring and ask her to marry me because obviously I feel she’s the woman for me to spend the rest of my life with. Proponents of shacking up will say that if a couple shacks up and doesn’t get married, it’s good that they found out they weren’t meant for each other before they walked down the aisle. To that, I say: if you can’t determine that the person you’re with isn’t someone you can grow with for the rest of your life just from dating them over a period of time without living together, you’re either not very perceptive or not ready to marry anyone at all. My parents have been married for over 26 years. I long to have a marriage like that, and won’t settle for less.”
My Vote: Get Married or Leave it Alone!
I believe that only certain people with a fear of giving themselves over to a commitment would agree to living together. Those fears are what brought the couple into the shacking up arrangement and what keeps them from advancing to marriage and the reason they prefer a situation that is fun and convenient, but also disposable and easily replaceable.
Their attitude of “let’s try this and SEE IF IT WORKS” is a recipe for failure. When a couple approaches marriage with this mindset, what they are actually doing is not taking the time to see if marriage will work and what they need to do to make it work, but instead seeing if it their little setup will fail. They are taking the path of least commitment and setting things up so they can get the benefits of a marital commitment with the least amount of commitment and damage.
Maturity, realistic expectations, an ability to negotiate and compromise, commitment, common values and morals, sharing of resources, and honest open communication are key to any long-term relationship, whether living together or not. You can find out all of these things about your potential partner through dating and conversations - you don’t need to reside under the same roof to find out what you need to know!
When a woman wants marriage and settles for shacking up, she has already lost the battle and her man’s respect. She did not stand up for herself or what she believes in as she chooses to just go with HIS flow.
Things are only going to go down hill from there.
A couple that truly believe in the sanctity of marriage would find no value in living together and therefore would not make living together or having families, buying property etc. without the legal, emotional and spiritual protections and commitments to each other of marriage a lifestyle choice.
(c) 2008 Deborrah Cooper. Deborrah has authored dozens of relationship articles and advice columns on Ask HeartBeat!, which focuses on modern relationships for teens and adults. Her dating guide Sucka Free Love! provides street-smart, hilarious insight into the toughest issues facing singles today. Check out The Sucka Free Dating Radio Talk Show on Wednesday night at 7:00 pm PST.
Wake Up Every Morning Full Of Energy
By Hans Thorn
Imagine yourself wakening up every morning full of energy and ready for the challenges of the day. Lots of exciting things are happening and you manage them with success. You turn around the negative to the positive and with the positive you create balance and success within all areas. Would not this be wonderful?
This scenario could be yours, but the question is: Does your life look like this? Most likely most people would like to have a life like this, but the reality for many people is not as positive as the scenario above. A lot of people struggle with bad finances, bad health and bad relationships. How come?
No-one is born with a negative approach or negative thoughts of herself. However, when the years pass by, a lot of people create a negative pattern of thoughts that leads to negative feelings, which always leads to poor results. There is nothing wrong with that and it is pure naturally if you understand the law of cause and effect, where every effect has a cause and every cause has an effect.
The reason for that we think positively or negatively about ourselves and what we can accomplish is to a large extent shaped of what we have seen, experienced and heard as a child. If you have grown up surrounded by harmony, the chances that you have life balance are greater than what you would have had if you had grown up under tougher circumstances. Maybe it sounds unfair, and maybe it is, but you cannot change the past.
However, you can change what you think and feel about yourself now. What has been programmed in your past can be replaced with a new program where you get positive results, all according to the law of cause and effect.
How is this done? The first thing we need to do is to let go of the emotional connection to what causes poor results. To let go of everything that is negative and forgive those who might have done this. Not so much for their sake as for you to be able to be free from the strong bounds that creates your unwished results.
When you then feel free and released from the negative, it is time to program your brain with your dream scenario with assistance of new messages, for example:
1. I love myself
2. I am running a successful business
3. I have many excellent relationships
Read your sentences 10 times each morning and evening during three weeks and continue thereafter with new positive sentences that you want to experience. This will become you new cause and the results will be positive and totally different from your previous results.
Hans Thorn has over 20 years of experience in personal development. He has helped hundreds of clients with success in areas like economy, health and relationships. Get his Personal
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