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By Jack Ito

 You don’t need to have any kind of preparation whatsoever in order to find a partner. But, in order to find a great partner, you need to have even more preparation than you would to find a great job. The successes in our life don’t happen by accident or without effort.

The more of the things that you do on this list, the better partner you will find.

DECIDE ON WHAT YOU WANT FIRST–When you go shopping for food, there are those essential things that you don’t want to forget like bread and milk although you end up buying many things. When you look for a partner, you need to be able to tell the important from the extras. You can’t live on chips.

USE THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION–Our minds help us to achieve whatever we imagine. Use the power of your mind to help you find a great partner by clearly and repeatedly imaging such a person. You may already do this for sports or for oral presentations. It works for personal relationships too.

MAKE FRIENDS OR SPEND MORE TIME WITH FRIENDS–Friends help us to feel important and not to be lonely. Feeling unimportant and lonely will make you desire a person even if he or she is wrong for you. A starving person will eat moldy bread.

MAKE A DATING PLAN–Decide on how much time you will spend, how much money, how often you will date, etc. Having such a plan keeps you within your budget, keeps you on track, and is more likely to lead to success. Don’t depend on spontaneity and luck to find a great partner.

MAKE SURE YOUR FINANCES ARE IN ORDER AND THAT YOU HAVE AN EMERGENCY FUND–Financial and emotional crises create dependencies on other people, even when they are wrong for us. Having money in the bank makes it easier to say “no” when you need to.

WORK ON YOURSELF–Get into counseling or better yet work with a relationship coach. Identify old patterns and change them or else you will just repeat them with a new person. A relationship coach will help you to identify the forces that prevent you from having success. Just wanting things to change doesn’t automatically make them change.

FISH WITH THE RIGHT KIND OF BAIT–Are you a stay at home kind of person who is dreaming about an adventurous partner? Will that adventurous partner be attracted to you? It’s not about pretending–it’s about creating the kind of life you want to have by becoming the kind of person you want to be.

SHOP THE WORLD–If you wanted a fantastic car, would you only look for one at the local junk yard? The right person for you may be across the country or across the world. International dating takes more time than local dating and is not for the desperate and needy. But, the desperate and needy aren’t going to find someone good in their backyard either.

ENJOY YOUR LIFE–Just as the best time to find a job is when you don’t need one, so is the best time to find a mate. You then end up finding someone to share your great life with rather than looking for someone to make your life great. There is a world of difference.

HAVE A PASSION–Find something that is important to you and get involved. Save the whales, work for a local charity, or climb Mt. Everest. Do what turns you on in life before you look for someone who turns you on in life. Then such a person will be turned on by you.

WORK WITH A RELATIONSHIP COACH–Relationship coaches help you to get the kind of person you want while teaching you essential skills for building the relationship. Every shining star, executive, athlete, or politician you see has a coach. It helps them to be their best and to get the best.

Finding a wonderful mate takes preparation, work, and an investment of time and resources. This is true for every success in life. It is not a matter of getting lucky. It is only a matter of getting the right guidance and working consistently. The sooner you learn that, the sooner you can have what you want in life. Planning and work are characteristic of people who succeed. Are you willing to do what it takes in order to get what you want?

Jack Ito PhD is a licensed psychologist and relationship coach. Start your great relationship by signing up for the Relationship Coach newsletter and receive a FREE Relationship Planning Guide. Get daily help for your relationship at the Relationship Coach Blog.

Dating Relationship Statistics-The Cold Hard Facts About Dating
By Kelly Purden

 Men and women both have their own standards when it comes to dating. No matter where they are located at, there seems to be a constant pattern that evolves in the dating arena. In general, most men and women are really greatly interested in someone extraordinary that they can be with and spend their life forever and to make their dream a reality, both sexes are willing to broaden their search. To meet the man or woman of their dreams, most of them seek the help of the modern technology - that’s where the online dating comes in. According to one dating relationship statistics less than 50% of men and more than 50% of women from all over the world are dating sites members. That’s a lot! But, really, what are these people looking for in a date?

According to one dating relationship statistics gathered by Paul Rozin - a psychologist, when men were asked what kind of body type they like better in a woman, most of them chose “the average or typical physique”, therefore contradicting the myth that men in general fancy thinner women. Though physical appearance is the initial force that would attract you to someone, this is not always true. Personality is. 67% of men and 86% of women said that they prefer to date somebody who has a bubbly personality.

There is a stereotype in the dating market that says men prefer younger woman. This may be true for some; survey revealed that the age does not matter as long as the older woman is more striking than the younger one. However, almost 40% of women said that they would rather want to date a younger man. Did you know that over 12% of married couples in the United Stated involve older women and younger men?

Intellect, a confident mind-set, and same hobbies in life are also the attributes that singles are looking for in a partner. If you are good-looking but do not possess some of these traits, most probably you will be left out. Well, who would really want to date a person who has below average IQ level? The reason for this is because they want to have a nice conversation with their partner on an equal stage. You will notice that those who are well-educated tend to date women who are also knowledgeable in her own respective field. One of the dating relationship statistics that have already been scientifically confirmed is that those people who are in a healthy relationship are a lot better as far as physical health is concerned, compared to those who are not dating or not in a relationship. As a matter of fact, 9 out of 10 agree that it is healthier to be in a dynamic and faithful relationship than being alone.

Dating relationship statistics also revealed that almost 70 percent of people survey believes in love at first sight. Infidelity gets the highest score when it comes to the cause of a break up with the percentage of more than 50%. That’s a harsh truth considering the fact that almost 50% of these daters are really contemplating of getting married. However, dreadful the dating arena may be and no matter what is the dating relationship statistics reveal, you should not stop looking for that special someone.

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Want A Closer Relationship Try Dance Of Intimacy
By Margie Sharpe

 A Loving connection is a committed relationship where a couple goes to find ways to remain emotionally close to one another as they navigate the complexities we run into daily.This is a part of the human many do not want to nurture and be vulnerable as it is the emotional part of us we do not always understand.

Susan, describes the emotional connection she shares with her husband.

It is like we are dancing to our favorite song.When things are going well our steps are in tune and I can almost anticipate my his next move and he can anticipate mine. This lifts me up in ways I can not fully explain.

Being in sync and attuned to the needs and emotional rhythms of your partner are some of the benefits of a good relationship.

Let us look at ways to Nurture Intimacy.

Key ingredients to keep your relationship in top form.

1. Effectively communicating your needs letting your partner know what works and does not.

Healthy communication along with realistic expectations about your partner is essential.

Focus on communicating rather than attacking your partner when she/he fails to meet your needs.

2. The ability to compromise and accept the differences that exist between the two of you.

No matter how attuned you are to each other.You might have different ways to handle stress or express your needs. When you both accept these differences you will create a relationship that allows each others uniqueness to unfold.

3. The ability to forgive your partner.

Forgiveness plays an important role in any relationship. Even with the best intentions, partners end up hurting each other. Without the ability to forgive your partner for his/her blunders and relationship missteps,resentments build. Space is needed for these missteps and gives you the freedom to be yourself.

4. Affirm each others strengths and vulnerabilities.

As you and your partner build this intimate relationship you want the feeling your uniqueness is recognized and appreciated. When your partner acknowledges your victories as well as failures and is supportive when you feel insecure you have bonded closer.

5. Be a consistent and reliable presence for your partner.

Trust is the foundation of a great relationship and if you want to build a stronger connection, do not make promises you can not keep. We all mess up now and then, but repeatedly failing to be a responsible partner will only erode the foundation of intimacy. Respond to your partner in a consistent way and your relationship will grow beyond your wildest dreams.

Remember, even the best of us fall out of step with each other and if you are like most, your relationship will stumble. Disagreements, misunderstandings and lifes stresses may drive wedges between you temporarily weakening the bonds.

All relationships involve cycles if you assume that you should always feel intensely connected,even soul mates step on each others feet now and then, you set yourself up for dissappointment.

*It is perfectly normal that you and your partner bounce between connection and disconnection.

*As long as you both give your relationship the attention it deserves, these missteps will be temporary.

*During moments of disconnection, give each other the time needed to regain emotional footing.

*When you are both ready, work toward understanding why these occurred.

Do not allow these misunderstandings to linger indefinitely. Realize you are still two different individuals and see the world differently. So whether you have two left feet or are a skilled dancer,learn to appreciate and enjoy the dance of intimacy as it unfolds in your relationship.

I hope this has given you some food for thought and head for a more loving intimate relationship with your partner.

May you have many Happy Moments

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