Christian Matrimonials

By Peri Enkin

 Over the past few years it has been my ongoing privilege to work with a growing number of couples. They seek me out for private mentoring and for support with the quality of intimacy in their relationships. Some are newly in love and just starting out on their shared journey together. Others are long-term couples. Now, one or the other or both has found themselves at a crossroads. Regardless of the length of time that couples have been together there seem to be a few central underlying themes to the challenges we all face when it comes to being intimate with another human being.

My own relationship journey has inspired me to undertake a very personal study of what it really takes to achieve genuine intimacy. It is such a foundational human longing - the desire for connection and companionship- that it appears on the radar screen often whenever we set our hopes on a fulfilling lifestyle.

Who among us does not want to love and be loved?

While I regularly travel to study with teachers in the relationship field, it is more from years of close observation and deep listening that I have been led to formulate some of my loosely held perspectives. I say loosely, because having hard fast rules when it comes to matters of the heart seems ridiculous at best.

When we speak of love we are in spiritual territory, where intuition carries us much further than logic ever could.

I rely more on the feelings in my body, the vibration of aliveness in my cells, the depth of soul visible in the eyes, to guide my way to an understanding of love and its majesty. That said, more than a few clients have asked me to write some words that might help them make sense of both the chaos and the wonder they experience. It is both humbling and empowering to speak of such things.

A universal hunger for more meaningful and nourishing loving connections with other human beings is often felt as an ache or need we prefer to keep hidden. To expose these longings takes us immediately into vulnerable territory. That is the first observation I will offer today. Intimacy requires vulnerability. There is no getting around it. To be close to another we must reveal who we are and that means risking rejection, ridicule and surprisingly, something much more frightening for many - the possibility that we might actually attain the acceptance we seek.

Here is the thing. Evolution is happening everywhere and that includes within our intimate relationships. When two individuals come together to create a third presence- their relationship - the evolution of each individual accelerates. Have you heard the expression - If you want to grow get into a relationship? I find it to be so true!

There is nothing like a relationship to fuel the evolutionary fires.

In fact in healthy relationships - those based on celebrating differences, encouraging wholeness and honoring needs of both partners, growth is inevitable.

Challenges emerge when couples limit their own personal expansion. Or when they assume that their partner will remain the same over the course of a lifetime. How comfortable are any of us with change? We like the comfort of the familiar even if it no longer serves us.

It takes great courage to stay conscious in relationships.

Going to sleep and living according to habit, at times, seems much more viable. That is, until the pressure to evolve rises and no longer will be shut down or ignored by us.

The truth is that evolution washes through us and cannot be denied any more than a wave upon the ocean can. Resist the flow and it backs up creating enormous pressure. Many relationships are altered or abandoned right before the point of breakthrough. It is much easier to blame a partner than to take responsibility for developing more consciousness. Especially when we have so few models of relationships that are based on two whole partners coming together to expand both their uniqueness as individuals and their shared magnificence. More often we come together in an attempt to fill our emptiness, pacify our loneliness, or soothe our inner conflicts. We do all of these things in the name of love and wonder why we often feel drained. Real love energizes us. It is an offering that can fertilize the ground upon which both people are safe to become more than they could ever be alone.

Relationships are not an elixir or remedy.

They are a catalyst and container for transformation and a place to share a whole range of experiences. The thing is - relationships mean such different things to different people that we often get confused about what we are doing together. One of the first things to do is to clarify and define your relationship vision - both individually and together.

It does not matter whether you are currently part of a couple or a single. It can be helpful to consider the following two urges and how they motivate your behaviors.

The Urge for Freedom - experienced as a longing for personal development of our own skills, and the engaging of life on our own terms.

The Urge for Connection - the longing to merge, unite, share and experience communion - intimate unity that takes us beyond our independence and transforms us thoroughly.

If you have pursued freedom in your past chances are you now long for connection. If you have known intimate connection it is quite possible that it is now time for you to develop your own inner authority. Eventually we want embrace it all.

Balancing our urge for freedom and our urge for connection seems to be a prevailing evolutionary challenge within the relationship arena. When we realize we do not need to give up our selves to be fully present with another, relationships act as a sanctuary. The journey taken together has the potential to be a most exquisite opening to our own essence and to more of everything that life has to offer.

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Introduction to Romance in Dating
By Constantine Jameson

 The word romantic and the concepts associated with the word are two things that most men fail to understand when it comes to women. What is that the makes something romantic? If you are a guy you might be asking yourself the same thing right now or have asked yourself the same thing before. The meaning of the word romantic changes from situation to situation and is differs from woman to woman. Nevertheless, in general, and most women would agree to this definition is that romantic is to put what the woman wants first every now and then. In other words to give priority to what your girlfriend, your wife or your date would like to do, to hear to think; selflessness is romantic. Romance is therefore created and depends widely on the moment. Creating romantic moments is easy and may women wonder why men simply dont get it. Romantic moments are created usually during some type of activities. Doing something together with your date is romantic. Cleaning the toilet does not necessarily classify as doing something together it is just the things that are pleasurable. Like for instance going hiking, for a walk, or even shopping. It all depends on what the particular woman likes to do the most. All you have to do is think of an activity built around something she likes to do. Does she like shopping, fine dining, walks on a beach, watching movies and the list goes on. What will constitute an action as more romantic than the other, is not the cost of it. For a woman dining to an expensive restaurant is not more romantic than dining at a less expensive one. What makes something more romantic than something else is what the guy as to sacrifice to do that. For instance, doing something with a girl will be romantic if the guy had something else planned for the night, something that he would equally enjoy but cancelled the plans to spend time with her. In order for a girl to feel romance she must feel chosen.

The activity doesnt matter at the end of the day. It is what was given up to do that activity that matters,. It is also important to be totally involved with the particular activity for doing it to be romantic. With only minimal thinking and planning, romantic moments can happen every day and at the most unexpected, for the girl or woman, times. Romance is a concept that women understand better than men due the fact that they are, in general, more sensitive than guys. Sensitivity, is not necessarily a bad thing as many people think. It can be defined as the responsiveness to ones surroundings. Or in other words it can be seen as a general sense of what’s going on. Guys who understand the concept of sensitivity will do better in understanding the notion of romance and what it entails. A man that understands what romantic can be perceived as sensitive, nevertheless whatever the case is, sensitive or not, this man will be the one that gets to a womans heart faster.

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All the above apply to girls of different nationalities, even for Greek Girls. Greek girls are renown for their beauty and thats why there are so many Greek Models. In other words

Greek ladies are the best.

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Become Successful In OnlineDating
By rodrigo rehn

 Online dating takes a little more effort to make relationships work because here the person is not present in front of you, nor is he one among the circles that you move around or hang with.

The success rate of online dating depends entirely on personal discretion and use of instincts and common sense. Online dating does provide a plethora of choices, it may even mislead you at times but that does not mean that it is not worth giving a try.

People have developed healthy relationships following a few cautious rules. Some have even gone ahead to tie the knots. If you are intending to find a suitable partner for yourself then follow some of our tips on how to become successful in online dating.

A good profile with a photograph

Photographs attract the attention before words do. So this is one of the key points of becoming successful in online dating. Upload a good clear picture of yours which will help to grab the attention of companion seekers.

The profile should be simple and eye catching without too many details regarding your family or occupation or interests. Mention the vital points in your profile so that like=minded people can match their own statistics with yours and make them respond accordingly.

Avoid mass mails and use your own style

Most of the people commit the mistake of contacting several people at the same time and generally send mass mails to all of them.

This method can backfire. Your hunt for your prospective partner is for your personal need. Thus to communicate you need to add that personal touch of yours. It has been proved worldwide that nothing moves a person more than a personal note. Add your own individuality in the mails so that the person sees something unique in you and does not hesitate to respond to you.

Politeness goes a long way

When you are trying to start a conversation or a chat with your online partner make sure you add a dash of politeness and courtesy. This will further your prospects of receiving a faster and positive response. Politeness portrays your personal traits like patience and tolerance which is very important to become successful in online dating.

Do not be pushy

At times you may feel like this is the right person for you and you end up asking details which your online partner may hesitate to give. Just because you feel they are the right ones for you, does not mean that they feel the same about you.

Give them time. Do not rush into things and spoil your chances. Being pushy also gives the impression of you being desperate. At the same time be careful not to share too much personal information regarding you also.

Be honest

Do not hide facts about yourself like your age, or your occupation or that you are a single parent. Your honesty will help people to identify with their own needs and save you from many unpleasant situations.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating services for singles.

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