Christian Matrimonials

By Morgana Rae A

 ”Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.” William Shakespeare

First the data: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a magic ratio of 5:1 positive to negative interactions. He found that even the smallest gestures counted–a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to romance. The same story applies to all relationships.*

Here’s my favorite trick for improve the ratio: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without conditions. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.

Appreciation loops follow this formula: Take a moment to say to your partner, “What I appreciate about you is…” and fill in the end of the sentence. Honesty is crucial. Try this without planning or even knowing where your sentence is going to end. See what comes up.

The magic of this practice lies in its independence from the other person’s action. Your appreciation is not contingent on your partner’s behavior. You are not saying “I would appreciate you if…” Nothing is more powerful than not trying to change the other.

Instead, appreciation works like a circuit breaker to interrupt negative cycles: “We interrupt this regularly scheduled unhappiness to focus on the positive!”

Notice how challenging this can be in the middle of conflict and insecurity. What becomes possible when you face your partner and say “What I appreciate about you is…”? When you change your focus to the positive, your world changes.

Using this practice when the relationship is already thriving is like building a bank account to draw on later.

“Beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there’s a field. Will you meet me there?”
Rumi

See what happens when you try this formula on three relationships this month:
the relationship you care about the most at this moment,
the relationship that challenges you the most right now,
and the relationship that needs it the least.

Share your discoveries with me at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com

*This practice is not intended to “fix” a toxic relationship. Any relationship in which violence, drug abuse, or mental health problems are involved needs assistance from appropriate professionals.

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Morgana Rae, the Charmed Life Coach and creator of Financial Alchemy, is the world’s top Relationship with Money coach. She is owner of Charmed Life Coaching, a successful life and business coaching company that guides entrepreneurs to attract more than they chase, market effectively and inexpensively, and to enjoy success without sacrificing their humanity. Contact Morgana and grab your FREE MONEY MAGNET MP3 at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com.

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“
I Want My Husband Back
“
And What To Do About It

By George Daniels

 Is your relationship breaking down, and are you starting to say “I want my husband back”? Before you even realize something is wrong, you may find your marriage nearing its end.

If you are not prepared to see your marriage collapse right before you, then do everything you can to avoid it. Here are 5 tips to win husband back and save your marriage:

1) You are together to blame:

Recognize that it wasn’t just you and it wasn’t just him. It was the both of you. If you are willing to make changes in the manner you manage the relationship, your husband might be eager to. A little of it comes down to the way you consider the circumstances when “I want my husband back”.

2) You are equally responsible:

It takes two people to build and maintain a relationship, and two people to make it fail. It is not just one of you who is to blame.

What this means is that it is unfair if you take all the responsibility, or if you pass it all on to your husband. As long as you are playing your part in fixing the marriage, so should he.

3) Find some common ground:

You need to take an objective look at your life and how the marriage fits in with what you had in mind. What is it that brought you two together, and what keeps you determined to make it last? Have a look at what makes your husband special to you? And ask him what attracts him to you. If the passion is still there, “I want my husband back” will be easy since the marriage still fits in with your life’s goals.

4) Use that common ground to your advantage:

Once you have realized what exactly it is that makes you happy, try see how you can use that common ground to your advantage. If something makes both of you equally happy, then try spend time doing that activity together.

Let it look like a spur- of-the-moment thought on how to get husband back and make an effort to make it look like it is his brainchild. Try and spawn some enthusiasm about it. Don’t go over board with the thrill, however.

5) Let him know your thoughts on the marriage:

While you are doing the things that the both of you enjoy, let him see how extraordinary you think he is and how much you appreciate him. Let him grasp that you wish for what you used to enjoy. Let him see how you feel.

It easier for both of you to be open about your feelings when you are relaxed and enjoying yourselves. Do not hold back from saying, “I want my husband back”, as you may find you feels the same about you.

You have to know that it may perhaps not be doable to get back the relationship to the point it was when it was at it’s highest. Just because you want to win husband back doesn’t mean that it is the best thing to get it back to the way that it was.

But what you should believe is that the marriage can go beyond that high point. Tell yourself that the best part of the marriage is still to come if you are willing to work at it. Convince yourself, “I want my husband back, but I also want the marriage to be better than ever”, and then put in the effort to make it a reality.

Before your marriage fails, get your free report and e-course on “ How To Get Your Husband Back and Save The Marriage”. Want to save your marriage in 30 days? a look at the Magic Of Making Up now.

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