(Christian weddings) How To Keep Your Relationship Strong
By Debbie Allen
When a relationship is new and fresh we find it hard to imagine that it will ever end. But in many cases the newness wears off after a period of time and we begin to see problems with our partner. We may even begin taking them for granted. Eventually the thrill is gone and the relationship withers. Keeping a relationship strong requires some essential elements.
To begin, if there is not a true friendship then the relationship is not likely to last long. That is why I always suggest that a couple explore their friendship first before diving into a relationship. It is important to develop an understanding and appreciation of what makes the other person tick.
This may sound old-fashioned and simplistic but if you examine the relationships that you are familiar with you will probably find that the ones built on friendship are strong and flourishing. While the others, the ones where the couple appear to have few common interests, seem to struggle to survive.
During the initial exploration phase of the friendship it is wise to discuss future goals and plans. After all, if this is the beginning of a long-term relationship you will want to be on-board with those plans, nix them, or find a compromise that works for both of you.
Here’s an example of what I am talking about: If you happen to plan to be a career student then you are setting a standard for your lifestyle. Add that desire to that of your new partner that wants to be an archeologist in a faraway place. A compromise may need to be reached. This would be the case if one of you wanted a house full of children and the other did not want children. The possibilities are endless but the solution is the same; either one partner must give up his plans or a compromise will be needed.
You see, the friendship will provide that each partner learns about the other and respects the desires, dreams and goals that he has. Compromises are not always easy but in almost every situation an agreeable solution can be worked out.
Another important element to a relationship is having some ground rules when it comes to disagreements. It is vital that the couple learn to talk about problems rather than argue about them. Openly discuss in the beginning what is and is not acceptable in the relationship. This includes any expectations that each of you may have of the other. Decide early in the relationship how to deal with disagreements.
Simply talking things out will go a long way in keeping the relationship strong. Some couples agree to never end the day with angry feelings toward the other. It is wise to realize that each day is a new beginning. No matter what has happened up until now you have today to work on a solution.
Take each day as a new opportunity to make things better than the day before. Dwelling on the past will not help; focus on now and tomorrow. This will build a strong relationship that will not fail. Even when things seem hopeless the appropriate actions can turn the situation around.
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Getting control of your credit and finances
By Dr. Jennifer Baxt, DMFT, NCC, DCC
In the United States, millions of people are finding themselves in debt. People are now suffering with more debt than they can handle and its causing many to attempt a drastic action; bankruptcy. Many see bankruptcy as a win-win solution for them. They wipe all their debt clean and, in only seven years, they are able to get perfect credit again when the bankruptcy is taken off their record; however, what many people do not realize is that it can stay on your credit score for as much as twelve years.
Getting control of your credit and your finances comes down to one thing; budgeting. Having a budget is one of the most important things you can do for yourself, and your family, because it will give you the ability to look at what you spend and how much you can save. The first task in putting together your budget is to look at your expenses in fine detail. This is an important first step because it will really open your eyes to how much you spend. Many people think nothing of buying a $4.50 latte every single day because they do not see the complete sum of that purchase. It may only be $4.50 a day, but multiplied through the month it comes to $135. That $135 could easily be used for credit card payments, bill payments or to put in savings, instead of buying a latte a day.
The second step in creating your budget and getting control of your finances and credit comes in setting limits for yourself. If you do not set realistic limits, you will be doomed to fail on your budget. Set limits that are attainable and realistic and do not be overly generous with yourself. When you are putting the budget together, you may be tempted to put aside $140 for your lattes, but is it really necessary? Of course, you should make sure you put some money aside if you can for fun items like a movie or going out for dinner once or twice a month.
The third step is to continually review your budget. During the winter you may be paying $100 per month in heating which you will need to budget for, but you wont be paying that in the summer, so why budget for it then? Adjust your budget to reflect the changing circumstances, otherwise it will get out of date and you will have trouble sticking to it.
Lastly, stick to your budget. Your budget is highly important and it is the best bet you have to turning your finances around and improving your credit score. If you do not stick to it, then there is no reason to even do up a budget. By making sure the budget is something you think about at all times, you will find success in controlling your finances. At this point, you will wonder how you ever lived without a budget and why more people do not use this great financial tool to help, or keep, themselves out of debt.
Dr.Jennifer Baxt, works with people who are having trouble with their credit and want to improve their score. We offer solutions to credit problems by removing negative items from credit reports. You can visit our website www.jeb.helpformycredit.com for more information.
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