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By Dallas Dougan

 It is easy to understand how it might be uncomfortable to receive a massage from a stranger. Many of us have never sought a professional massage for this very reason, even though we recognize that it would feel good and be very healthy. Many men feel nervous that they will become sexually aroused during a massage intended to be physically therapeutic, and worry about the embarrassment of an unwanted erection. This is why many men prefer to receive their massage from a fellow man, to avoid any wandering thoughts that could tense them up and distract them from alleviating their physical tension.

Gay men often feel similarly uncomfortable receiving a massage from a straight man, but at the same time have trouble feeling physically connected to a female masseuse. The solution for gay men is to find a gay masseur to massage them, but this can be easier said than done. Many massage parlors prefer not to advertise themselves as “gay friendly” for fear of scaring away their straight clients. Meanwhile, potential gay clients are intimidated by the services that are available.

No matter whether you are a straight, gay, or bisexual man, there are some clear benefits to the experience of receiving a massage from another man. For a straight man, there is the experience of non-sexual intimate contact with another man that can help to alleviate feelings of insecurity and to boost self-esteem. Men often feel that they cannot connect intimately with other men because they failed to establish deep, open relationships with their own fathers. The psychological turmoil that remains can last for a lifetime and can interfere with promising and profitable social and business relationships.

For a gay man, there is also an element of being a part of a disenfranchised, even ostracized social group. It can be very difficult to have the types of trusting and open feelings towards others that facilitate muscle relaxation, making for a good and relaxing massage. Knowing that your masseur is also a gay man can help you to feel connected and comfortable enough to enjoy the health benefits of massage and also the psychological benefits of intimate platonic contact.

Every man should experience the comfort and fulfillment of receiving a massage from a trained male masseur. The psychological benefits of comfortable, nonjudgmental intimacy with another man can hardly be overestimated. The physical benefits of massage are well-known, but the body must be ready to receive the massage for maximum benefit. Any situation with is conducive to increased relaxation will also help to increase the physical benefits of the massage, and hormonal and pheromonal compatibility between men who share a similar purpose can also be highly therapeutic.

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Dallas writes about gay male massage in Chicago and other types of Chicago massage.

How Can You Trust In Relationships After Separation?
By Ben Needles

 Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have lovd at all so Tennyson tells us.

But there are many now who would disagree with him. Time after time we hear of those whove loved and then endured the pain of separation. This appears to scar some people for life.

The question is not only can you love after separation, but how can you ever trust in relationships again after separation?

First, lets dispel the notion that its easier for the person who leaves to pick up the threads of a new life - especially a new love life. Both of you will have had your trust in relationships shaken. Unless that person is psychologically unbalanced, (which does, of course, happen), separation from a loving partner is not something that most men or women undertake lightly - even in our throwaway society.

Separation from someone you love - however caused, and whoever is the leaver and the left - is always painful. The types of pain may differ, thats all. For example, the person who leaves may suffer guilt, anxiety, massive self doubt and recrimination, not to mention regret and grief.

The person who has been left of course will feel grief too, plus also self doubt, low self esteem, anger - even rage, and perhaps jealousy, especially if theres another party involved in the break up.

So you both hurt, lets make no bones about it.

Here are my tips for learning to trust in relationships again:

* First, let yourself grieve. Its not going to be forever - nothing is. But you need to let it happen. Get counselling if you need to, but weeping, wailing and gnashing of teeth are going to be there for the first few weeks probably.

Maybe six months or so later youll still get the odd wave of it. The point is, dont fight it. That just makes it worse because you focus on it more. If you allow it to play itself out, the effect will eventually be like the sun coming out after a storm.

* Second. After a major separation from a love affair, treat yourself to non-cerebral things. By that I mean you cant heal the pain of separation and loss by thinking about it. A shiatsu massage, on the other hand, can make you feel wonderful - even if the effect only lasts for a few hours. (By the way, this is as much for the men as for the ladies - we all need to feel good! The answer - again for either gender - is most definitely not in getting wasted every night with drink! That makes you feel stupid and ill!)

* Avoid vengeance on yourself. Its very tempting to go off looking for love substitutes following a separation. This can take the form of promiscuity, alcohol or drug abuse, or some other form of self harm. This is misplaced and displaced anger. Anger is part of loss, grief and heartbreak, but beat up a pillow, talk to a therapist - or if you cant find one or afford one - phone the Samaritans! You dont have to be on the verge of suicide to talk to them - and they really will help.

* Avoid taking out vengeance on your ex. This will again make you feel bad and, depending on how you do it, could even land you in court or jail. Actually, you wont hurt the other person as much as you think if at all - youll only make yourself look and feel stupid. Its your anger, so its your problem. The antidote is to reach for the next most comforting thought, which may not be the most noble at this stage, but could be something as simple as, I wont always feel like this. Or, (a good one), Actually, its her/his loss. Im a wonderful person. Then have a good gloat!

* Finally, the place to look for love after separation is within yourself. You cant regain happiness by trying to take the other persons life apart. Their not being with you anymore is your signal for a fresh beginning and a pause in your life to re-evaluate what you really want for your love life - maybe for the next five or ten years, (or weeks or months!), or perhaps forever.

Learn to love yourself again. Look for the good in you, not the bad in the other. Acknowledge it, accept it, and soon youll love it - thats you - again.

And thats the beginning of restoring your trust in relationships, love and life!

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Trevor Emdon is an expert on relationship trust and other self help issues. Check out http://www.trust-in-relationships.com for details of his latest book and free reports.

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Become Successful In OnlineDating
By rodrigo rehn

 Online dating takes a little more effort to make relationships work because here the person is not present in front of you, nor is he one among the circles that you move around or hang with.

The success rate of online dating depends entirely on personal discretion and use of instincts and common sense. Online dating does provide a plethora of choices, it may even mislead you at times but that does not mean that it is not worth giving a try.

People have developed healthy relationships following a few cautious rules. Some have even gone ahead to tie the knots. If you are intending to find a suitable partner for yourself then follow some of our tips on how to become successful in online dating.

A good profile with a photograph

Photographs attract the attention before words do. So this is one of the key points of becoming successful in online dating. Upload a good clear picture of yours which will help to grab the attention of companion seekers.

The profile should be simple and eye catching without too many details regarding your family or occupation or interests. Mention the vital points in your profile so that like=minded people can match their own statistics with yours and make them respond accordingly.

Avoid mass mails and use your own style

Most of the people commit the mistake of contacting several people at the same time and generally send mass mails to all of them.

This method can backfire. Your hunt for your prospective partner is for your personal need. Thus to communicate you need to add that personal touch of yours. It has been proved worldwide that nothing moves a person more than a personal note. Add your own individuality in the mails so that the person sees something unique in you and does not hesitate to respond to you.

Politeness goes a long way

When you are trying to start a conversation or a chat with your online partner make sure you add a dash of politeness and courtesy. This will further your prospects of receiving a faster and positive response. Politeness portrays your personal traits like patience and tolerance which is very important to become successful in online dating.

Do not be pushy

At times you may feel like this is the right person for you and you end up asking details which your online partner may hesitate to give. Just because you feel they are the right ones for you, does not mean that they feel the same about you.

Give them time. Do not rush into things and spoil your chances. Being pushy also gives the impression of you being desperate. At the same time be careful not to share too much personal information regarding you also.

Be honest

Do not hide facts about yourself like your age, or your occupation or that you are a single parent. Your honesty will help people to identify with their own needs and save you from many unpleasant situations.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating services for singles.

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By Amit Kheterpal

 Man is a social animal has been proved long ago. We started staying together in colonies so as to man always wanted to be in a social setting. Those social settings gave way to varied feelings and emotions. Some of the feelings of love and friendship fostered within these communities. That same thing that our initial homo sapiens did we have today in the form apartments,community complexes,colonies, cities and towns. And everywhere you can see examples of love,friendship and several other relationships foster.

Coming to the fact about love and friendship. These are the two feelings we as human beings always crave for. But it is these two feelings that love and friendship which also give you a maximum amount of pain and hurt. Mostly these feelings result from the mistakes we make when we select our friends. This begets a basic question as to why do we always make wrong selection about love and friendship. Do we become so blind in love that we do not see anything bad about the other person? Do we become that unmindful of all other facts that we see only good in that friendship?

A friendship evolves because we want to have people with similar mindsets be with you. That logic helps you become friends with like minded people. Friends will always have common thoughts and true friends can even read each others thoughts.

Love blooms because of attraction and there is no logical reasoning to love. That is why it is said that love is blind. But as your relationship matures, you share your thoughts with each other and that is where the potential acrimony may lie if you are not careful about it. The reason being that as you become aware of each others thoughts you always want to change the other person viewpoint to match yours. That may not happen so easily and the relationship starts getting affected.Eventually some relationships end because the other person does not want to give in to your demands.

The other reality is that man is a factor of experiences. These experiences keep changing you everyday. That changes can affect your friendship or love as you may see the other person in a different light. It is here that you need to understand how the basic feelings of love and friendship occur and how they blossom. Once you are aware of these physical and mental reasons of love and friendship you will always be careful of what can happen to a relationship.

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By rodrigo rehn

 Online dating can both be a pleasurable experience as well as a hard hitting one. Many people while dating online overlook certain criteria which is essential for relationships to grow.

They do not understand the thin line of difference between getting to know the other person and being inquisitive which leads to trespassing on unwanted territories. This spells doom for their relationships. The cause of most relationships not taking off from step one is the mistake of crossing the thin line.

Have you just found yourself someone for online dating and want to make it successful? Do you want to know the questions that you should not ask while dating online? We are here to help you identify the warning signs and prevent you from treading on explosives.

Never ask about past relationships

Among the questions that you should not ask while dating online is questions related to past relationships. When dating online there are lots of things to discuss and discover about each other.

For some, past relationships may conjure up painful memories. They may have gone through a difficult time and may be trying to come to terms with it. At such a time this is definitely not a good question.

Future plans

This is the biggest blunder some people make and is one of the detrimental questions that you should not ask while dating online. You may be the one who is looking out for a long term commitment and view this prospective online date as your life partner, but for the other person it might be just friendship that they want or somebody to have small talks with.

At such a time do not ask questions related to future plans such as What are your plans on our children? This may be the last time you may hear from your date.

Avoid topics on religion

This question is poison ivy. People are not acceptable to comments on religion. You may not share the same opinion as your online partner and this could result in an ugly end to your relationship. Do not indulge in any kind of religious discussions.

Keep politics at bay

Another touchy question that you should not ask while dating online is that related to politics. Politics can make some people really agitated and to avoid unpleasant debates steer clear of this question.

Avoid money related questions

This is a very tricky situation where you want to know whether your online partner is someone who is going to sweet talk you into doling out cash. Though it is good to be on your guard, this question is best left unanswered. In due course you will know his intentions.

Avoid topics on current relationships

This question comes to the mind of all online dating people since every one is contacting multiple profiles. However, it is rather rude and inappropriate to ask your online partner how many more people they are checking out at present.

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Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance dating services for singles.

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Get The Loving Relationships That You Want And Deserve
By Deborah Schaefer

 If you want a loving, passionate relationship with that special someone, then you have to be willing give more of yourself unconditionally to get the rewarding marriage you want and deserve. Zig Ziglar said it best when he said, You can have everything you want if you help others get what they want.

Many people measure their success in life by the loving relationships that they have with their spouse or significant other. When a person finds that special someone in their life, they find new meaning and purpose.

Almost all successful, loving marriages begin with a strong chemical and hormonal bond, but that is only the beginning. That chemical component is a very good start, but it is not the only ingredient for developing a deep, meaningful relationship. Lasting relationships are based on love, trust, friendship, values, goals and so much more.

Having a successful life is impossible unless you have happy, healthy relationships. Strong, life-long marriages begin with the understanding that there must be give and take with the other person. You must give to them and they must, in turn, give back to you. Likewise, you must be willing to receive from each other.

One person can not do all of the giving and one do all of the receiving. I promise you if this is happening in a marriage, then this relationship is headed for failure and, possibly, worse because this is the makings of an abusive relationship, not a healthy one. And if you are in an abusive relationship, then you need to get out of it now. Take action to get control of all aspects of your life.

Effective marriages require each person to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent to their relationship. Assuming that our spouse completely understands our needs and will give us what we need without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to any relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, spouses must treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to our husband and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to your husband by confirming that they are doing everything they can. Affirming our mate is something that is greatly overlooked and ignored by many couples.

The opposite of respect is making quick judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice. Respect is the very foundation for a great marriage. This also means respecting yourself and respecting your mate and their feelings.

Listen to your spouse when they are sharing the important things from their day. By effectively listening and not pre-judging their comments, we show them that we care about them and what they do. This is important if married couples are to understand each other.

Just as important as listening itself is developing an atmosphere where each of you can safely express their feelings when they need to. When spouses fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective, productive relationship. Be open to one another and you will find you will enjoy a deeper, more meaningful life together.

Focus your time and energy on building a very happy, fulfilling relationship with your mate. Start by giving more of yourself each day and watch the return you get back from them. Get the love that you want, by giving your partner the love that they desire.

Deborah Schaefer, publisher of http://www.SuccessOrate.com

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The Comfort of A Male Massage Therapist
By Dallas Dougan

 It is easy to understand how it might be uncomfortable to receive a massage from a stranger. Many of us have never sought a professional massage for this very reason, even though we recognize that it would feel good and be very healthy. Many men feel nervous that they will become sexually aroused during a massage intended to be physically therapeutic, and worry about the embarrassment of an unwanted erection. This is why many men prefer to receive their massage from a fellow man, to avoid any wandering thoughts that could tense them up and distract them from alleviating their physical tension.

Gay men often feel similarly uncomfortable receiving a massage from a straight man, but at the same time have trouble feeling physically connected to a female masseuse. The solution for gay men is to find a gay masseur to massage them, but this can be easier said than done. Many massage parlors prefer not to advertise themselves as “gay friendly” for fear of scaring away their straight clients. Meanwhile, potential gay clients are intimidated by the services that are available.

No matter whether you are a straight, gay, or bisexual man, there are some clear benefits to the experience of receiving a massage from another man. For a straight man, there is the experience of non-sexual intimate contact with another man that can help to alleviate feelings of insecurity and to boost self-esteem. Men often feel that they cannot connect intimately with other men because they failed to establish deep, open relationships with their own fathers. The psychological turmoil that remains can last for a lifetime and can interfere with promising and profitable social and business relationships.

For a gay man, there is also an element of being a part of a disenfranchised, even ostracized social group. It can be very difficult to have the types of trusting and open feelings towards others that facilitate muscle relaxation, making for a good and relaxing massage. Knowing that your masseur is also a gay man can help you to feel connected and comfortable enough to enjoy the health benefits of massage and also the psychological benefits of intimate platonic contact.

Every man should experience the comfort and fulfillment of receiving a massage from a trained male masseur. The psychological benefits of comfortable, nonjudgmental intimacy with another man can hardly be overestimated. The physical benefits of massage are well-known, but the body must be ready to receive the massage for maximum benefit. Any situation with is conducive to increased relaxation will also help to increase the physical benefits of the massage, and hormonal and pheromonal compatibility between men who share a similar purpose can also be highly therapeutic.

Dallas writes about gay male massage in Chicago and other types of Chicago massage.

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By rodrigo rehn

 Online dating takes a little more effort to make relationships work because here the person is not present in front of you, nor is he one among the circles that you move around or hang with.

The success rate of online dating depends entirely on personal discretion and use of instincts and common sense. Online dating does provide a plethora of choices, it may even mislead you at times but that does not mean that it is not worth giving a try.

People have developed healthy relationships following a few cautious rules. Some have even gone ahead to tie the knots. If you are intending to find a suitable partner for yourself then follow some of our tips on how to become successful in online dating.

A good profile with a photograph

Photographs attract the attention before words do. So this is one of the key points of becoming successful in online dating. Upload a good clear picture of yours which will help to grab the attention of companion seekers.

The profile should be simple and eye catching without too many details regarding your family or occupation or interests. Mention the vital points in your profile so that like=minded people can match their own statistics with yours and make them respond accordingly.

Avoid mass mails and use your own style

Most of the people commit the mistake of contacting several people at the same time and generally send mass mails to all of them.

This method can backfire. Your hunt for your prospective partner is for your personal need. Thus to communicate you need to add that personal touch of yours. It has been proved worldwide that nothing moves a person more than a personal note. Add your own individuality in the mails so that the person sees something unique in you and does not hesitate to respond to you.

Politeness goes a long way

When you are trying to start a conversation or a chat with your online partner make sure you add a dash of politeness and courtesy. This will further your prospects of receiving a faster and positive response. Politeness portrays your personal traits like patience and tolerance which is very important to become successful in online dating.

Do not be pushy

At times you may feel like this is the right person for you and you end up asking details which your online partner may hesitate to give. Just because you feel they are the right ones for you, does not mean that they feel the same about you.

Give them time. Do not rush into things and spoil your chances. Being pushy also gives the impression of you being desperate. At the same time be careful not to share too much personal information regarding you also.

Be honest

Do not hide facts about yourself like your age, or your occupation or that you are a single parent. Your honesty will help people to identify with their own needs and save you from many unpleasant situations.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating services for singles.

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